Some Anniversaries Hurt

Rev. William G. Lewis

This year is a milestone anniversary year. A year I thought would not get to me since it has been “so long”. It has, and the last few months have been worse than ever.

This week was the 10th anniversary of my first husband’s death. You think that you have done all your grieving, all your pain has lessened and all the really missing gone. You have a wonderful husband now who treats you great and even wants pics of your first husband on the wall. Why would it his so hard? But is does.

On top of that, the very day this week, the day that is the 10 year mark, you find out about what could possible be some really bad health problems in a daughter. Some are connected to one of the same areas your husband dealt with. Then you find out that his grave stone has to be moved. Normally this would not be a major upset, but this week it made the wound in my heart even bigger.

Torn, hurting and trying to deal with it all homesickness for my kids became huge.

Tears.

Fears.

Hurts.

Texas heat headaches added to the mess.

The next morning I get out my Bible and feel the pain as I open it. What is my reading for the day?

1 Thessalonians 4:13-18:

13 But we do not want you to be uninformed, brethren, about those who are asleep, so that you will not grieve as do he rest who have no hope.

14 For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so God will bring with Him those who have fallen asleep in Jesus.

15 by the word of the Lord, that we who are alive and remain until the coming of the Lord, will not precede those who have fallen asleep.

16 Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first.

17 Then we who are alive and remain will be in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so we shall always be with the Lord.

18 Therefore comfort one another with these words.

I noticed a few things. First it does not say not to grieve, just not like to world does. They have no hope, I know I will see him again. He will meet my current husband and know that Rick is the one that he prayed for over the last year of his life. Willie died “in Jesus”.

We also have a big event to look forward to. When the rapture comes (“we who are alive and remain until the coming of the Lord, will not precede those who have fallen asleep. Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. Then we who are alive and remain will be in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so we shall always be with the Lord.”)

There is comfort in those words. I grieve again, but with the knowing that the end has not come, there is more to the story, more to life and all those who are “in Jesus” will be together.

One thing it also makes me think of, the so many that are not going to be there when the rapture comes. The tribulation, judgment, and hell’s fire wait them. Texas is hot, I mean hot. We have been over 100 for days and days. I can’t stand it. Yet I know it is nothing compared to Hell fire.

Praise God no one has to face that, God has made the way to have the assurance of salvation and of joining Him in the sky.

Do you know Jesus? Do you have the assurance?  Will you be meeting me, Willie and all those who have gone before “in Jesus”?  If not please see here.

Grief? Yes.

Sorrow? Yes

Raw emotions? yes

Hopelessness? NO!

One thought on “Some Anniversaries Hurt

  1. Thank you! I am still greaving the loss of my sister, my family. Oh I have nieces and nephews, but they are married, I’m there aunt so I’m not of there age. Willie was my heart, your words helped today to ease some of my pain. Grief is human, I thank you for reminding me God has care of Willie as she sleeps till Jesus returns.

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