Roadkill and a 3 year old

Anyone following either of my blogs knows I watch my 3 year old granddaughter every day. She and I are a team and love doing many of the same things. PAPA says I spoiled her by making her love animals so much, but I do not agree. Her dad is a hunter and watches animal programs with her, all Dora’s friends are animals as well as Diego, Kai Lan, Wonder Pets and many of the kids shows. Not sure why I get blamed!

One of the things we love to do is go for walks. Our favorite thing is to walk the 3.2 miles to where PAPA works and have lunch with him. This past Wednesday we did just that. Half way there is a laundromat with a nice clean bathroom. We usually make it that far before she has to go (ahem, good excuse anyway, usually I am getting bad by then too).

As we were leaving the laundromat there where the drive meets the road, was a roadkill. An opossum was laying there, mouth open and run over. There was no blood, just a dead opossum that had tire tracks on it, but she was fascinated.  She wanted to look at it and made lots of remarks about it’s teeth and big mouth.

For the next mile and half she talked about the opossum’s situation. (Well, with the exception of the short time she asked if we could please go to a garage sale because she really really wanted to go…. another love we both have!)  She asked about how it got hit and I was able to talk to her about playing in the street or crossing the street so she did not get hit. She informed me that if what happened to the opossum happened to her then her mom would be very sad.

She saw two squirrels playing in the road and told them to get out or they would end up like the opossum. More conversation about death followed and she informed me that if that happened to her mom she would be very sad.

All this week she has talked about the opossum and asking questions about it. Do they growl?  Can it growl now?  Do they bite? Can it bite now?

It has been a good time of learning for her and I want to use it to its fullest as she talks and asks questions. Not just about playing in the road and getting hit, but about death itself.

It has been learning for me too. Having  her by herself and not with other kids has given me opportunities that many times are missed when you are a parent and dealing with everything. Daycare does not provide this learning. However, for me it is one on one with her all day. Yes, I have things I should get done, things I need to get done, but they sit. At my age they sit for some time at times as I am too tired at night to stay up late and do them. However, God has blessed me with this little girl to enjoy, work with and help understand life and Him.

Use your opportunities to the best. Encourage their questions and not push them off.  Little ones learn and want to learn way more than we give them credit for at times!

Be Careful What They Hear

Today something happened that reminded me again of how much our little ones pick up things they see and hear. We often think they are too young or are not paying attention, but believe me they are. Way more than you want to think they are.

Today Scout came and her daddy had picked me up a swimming pool. I had asked him to do it since he has a pick-up truck and I was not able to get it into our van without bending it a bit. It is one of those hard plastic kiddy pools.

Scout and I filled it up with water and then I told her we needed to wait for a bit so the sun could warm the water. She insisted it was already warm. I forgot. I am from the north east USA and we live in Texas. Water comes warm to hot from the tap in summer.

I still convinced her to wait a bit till the sun came out, which for her was a long time to wait. At 8:30 AM she was ready to go in and stop waiting! I put her into her bathing suit and took her outside to wait a bit more.

On the porch roof I have a bird feeder and when the wind blows or the doves try to get on it seed goes all over the porch and is very tempting to little hands. The little hands decided it would be fun to throw seed into the pool! I yelled, she disobeyed and in went some seed.

I thought the best thing to do was to give her something to skim the seed out and make her clean her mess. She is 2.5 years old, and is able to understand what I was telling her.

The only thing I could think of that was here was one of those spatter things with a handle for putting over food when it is being cooked in oil. My husband had several of them when we married and they looked unused then and 4.5 years later they are still unused. I took one out and she got big eyes! I told her what to do with it but she was not listening, she already knew what it was—a magnifying glass, HER magnifying glass! She could not believe I was giving her such a precious thing. I had no idea how she knew what a magnifying glass was!

Then it all came out. She stood up, raised her arms like a cheer leader yelling RAH, and says “Scout, animal rescuer, (plops down in water at this time,and continues) at bottom of ocean” as she put the “magnifier” down in the water and discovered the starfish, fish and octopus on the bottom.

Take a look:

She was discovering all morning with that thing, and all over the porch.

Now, I think we all know where she got that from and how much she learns. She will answer all the questions they ask on the show, even if she is playing and I think she has not listened one bit.

What do your kids hear? What comes out of your mouth? What do you watch that you think they do not pay any attention to?

They are, and they are learning!

As the kids song goes:

Oh, be careful little eyes, what you see.
Oh, be careful little eyes, what you see.
There’s a Father up above, looking down in tender love,
So be careful little eyes, what you see.

Be careful little ears what you hear
Be careful little mouth what you say…
Be careful little hands, what you touch…
Be careful little feet, where you go…

Same goes for you mom!

Happy Mother’s Day

Is this your Mother’s day greeting? NO? Was not mine either.

You see, for me, and maybe you, my kids are grown, married and have kids of their own. Not only that but my family is spread out. Four kids in Maine, one in NC and then my step kids are here in Texas.  Yesterday I cried. I wanted so much to see the ones from my side. I received two great cards in the mail yesterday and cried more. I miss them all.

Not only that, I miss my own mother. She lives in NJ and is no spring Chicken any more either.

Mother’s Days are not the same when you get older, so I have a suggestion or two.

  • Thank God for your mom. Dead or alive, near or far, good mom or bad, you would not be here without her. You would not be enjoying your own children, having a relationship with our heavenly Father or enjoying life if it was not for her.
  • Enjoy being a mom if you are one.
  • Look at the things your kids do through their eyes. What we see as adults is not always what they see or think. They have hearts that want to give. Accept the gifts and gestures without criticism or complaint. The flowers they bring, the drawings they make, even the mess from breakfast for you. Yes, it does make more work for you to clean up the mess, but look at their heart and encourage them.
  • Be thankful, even when you are missing them, hurting for their lack of caring (yes, some kids will not bother to acknowledge the day) pray for them.

Mom’s we are blessed. We are a blessing. Enjoy your day!

How To Know When You Are Ready For Parenthood

This came in my email today. If you want some good laughs subscribe to The Cybersalt Digest

“How To Know When You Are Ready For Parenthood”

MESS TEST: Smear peanut butter on the sofa and curtains. Now rub your hands in the wet flower bed and rub on the walls. Cover the stains with crayons. Place a fish stick behind the couch and leave it there all summer.

TOY TEST: Obtain a 55-gallon box of LEGOs. (If LEGOs are not available, you may substitute roofing tacks or broken bottles.) Have a friend spread them all over the house. Put on a blindfold. Try to walk to the bathroom or kitchen. Do not scream (this could wake a child at night).

GROCERY STORE TEST: Borrow one or two small animals (goats are best) and take them with you as you shop at the grocery store. Always keep them in sight and pay for anything they eat or damage.

DRESSING TEST: Obtain one large, unhappy, live octopus. Stuff it into a small net bag making sure that all arms stay inside.

FEEDING TEST: Obtain a large plastic milk jug. Fill it halfway with water. Suspend from the ceiling with a stout cord. Get the jug swinging. Try to insert spoonfuls of soggy cereal (such as Fruit Loops or Cheerios) into the mouth of the jug while pretending to be an airplane. Now dump the contents of the jug on the floor.

NIGHT TEST: Prepare by obtaining a small cloth bag and fill it with 8 to 12 pounds of sand. Soak it thoroughly in water. At 8 PM begin to waltz and hum with the bag until 9 PM. Lay down your bag and set your alarm for 10:00 PM. Get up, pick up your bag, and sing every song you have ever heard. Make up about a dozen more and sing them until 4:00 AM. Set alarm for 5:00 AM. Get up and make breakfast. Keep this up for 5 years. Look cheerful.

PHYSICAL TEST (WOMEN): Obtain a large beanbag chair and attach it to the front of your clothes. Leave it there for 9 mo. Now remove 10% of the beans.

PHYSICAL TEST (MEN): Go to the nearest drug store. Set your wallet on the counter. Ask the clerk to help himself. Now proceed to the nearest food store. Go to the head office and arrange for your paycheck to be directly deposited to the store. Purchase a newspaper. Go home and read it quietly for the last time.

FINAL ASSIGNMENT: Find a couple who already has a small child. Lecture them on how they can improve their child’s discipline, patience, tolerance, toilet training, and table manners. Suggest many things they can improve as well. Emphasize to them that they should never allow their children to run riot. Enjoy this experience. It will be the last time you’ll have all the answers.