Just Say NO!

Today is Friday and I usually like to include some frugal ideas for family and join in the fun at Biblical Womanhood. Last night I was tired and did not get my blog written and this morning I was in bed and thought about it. Funny thing, by the time I got to the computer my thoughts were all jumbled up and the idea for frugal Friday fell out somewhere between here and the bedroom.

I have been trying not to blame it on old age, but I am getting worried. Stress? Maybe. Lack of sleep? Another idea. Or could it be that I am just a scatterbrained grammie? I hope not!

Actually, I tend to think it is stress. I do not know about you, but life takes a lot out of us with everything going on. Gas prices, food prices, health insurance costing more and paying out less. Add to that the problems that weather causes (a bad rain washed out our driveway, but others have tornadoes etc too),  health problems and all the other daily living things we tend to get a bit overwhelmed.

When I had my bloggy giveaway one thing I realized, so many of us are stressed with all that is expected of us and needs to be done. Single mom’s trying to raise the family, wives trying to fill their roll as wife and mom and some have no help from their husbands either.

With all this, how can we think? How can we plan to be frugal? Today it is becoming more and more of a necessity than an option.

One thing I am learning is “Just say no”. Sometimes it comes to that. Materialism has taken over our world. The toys are no longer cheap. Kids no longer need to use creativity to make things to play with, they want it all provided. When I was growing up, as well as when we raised our kids on a tight budget, creativity was the answer for play. Parents now think that kids need to have every toy out there. They feel their child will not do well in school if they are not filled with baby Einstein or Leap Frog or one of the other “learning” toys. Kids are pushed and not allowed to be kids.

What is wrong with saying “no” and letting them use their imagination? Imagination is frugal, but with great impact on development.  Creativity. It does not need to be bought.

Frugal is also saying “no” to ourselves. No to eating out every time we do not want to cook. No to running to the store for a few items. No to lobster. (Sorry, I am from Maine and living in Texas and dying for lobster!).

NO. A powerful word when followed through. Only two letters, but can be a huge help to the budget, to the stress and to the mind. Get going, say “no” and let you and your kids use some creativity!

For more frugal ideas go to Biblical Womanhood!

Redesigning our mind

I do not know about you, but I love HGTV. Not everything, but I love the shows where they tell you how to use what you have. There are several of them, but the ones I like to watch are freecycle, Design on a Dime and Design Remix.

Freecycle they rearrange the furniture, grab furniture, pillow, sheets etc from other places and when they get done the room looks totally different than it did before, but you have spent no money.

Design Remix is a lot the same, but they spend $50 plus paint to show how to make a room look totally different.

Design on a Dime actually buys things and paint, when you come back home it is a new room. Problem is their dime is $1,000 mine is .10! However, you can get some ideas for decorating what you have.

I have a student interior decorator coming to my home as part of her class work and portfolio. She is not charging me but is helping me rearrange what I have to look better. I have bought paint (oops paint at Home Depot) and painted one wall in the room and I will need to buy knobs for the cabinets, but so far my living room looks so much better, and it was all my own stuff that I had!

Yes, it meant getting rid of some things that clutter, things I did not want to part with. It means taking some things and making them less prominent in the room, and other things more prominent. Even though for me it might be upsetting to get rid of or move things, it is much better afterwards.

I began to think of this in another way. So many of us get unhappy where we are, or with our spouse, kids or church. The situation may look bad, may be awful yet God has an answer. We fight and kick when He is trying to do the rearranging bu,t if we let Him, it will be better.

There are things in all of our lives that need to be uncluttered, moved, thrown out. I have been going through a situation here that has had me beside myself. Frustrated, upset, ready to run (no, not from my husband! ) but it took someone close to me to point out that I am here for a reason and that they can see so many changes in some others because of me. She encouraged me not to leave the situation, but to know I am being used of God in a mighty way. She told me to pray more and rest in what God is doing.

I needed to rearrange some thinking, get rid of some clutter in my mind and open my eyes to see how I am being used. I am praying for wisdom, instead of fretting. I am asking to be used more, instead of getting depressed or running.

What is your situation? Are you frustrated, negative and feeling that you wish so and so (husband, kid, etc) would straighten up? Know you are there for a reason. Work on your attitude. Work on de-cluttering your mind and ask for wisdom to be the woman of God you are meant to be.

This hurts, probably more than getting rid of the physical things in the house. We have baggage, harbored hurts etc that need to go. It is in letting God work in our lives that we can look and see how we can be used. Let Him do the rearranging, in that room in our mind as well as in the situation. He has a plan, work with Him for our families and our personal lives.