What doesn’t Work For Me is today’s topic over at Rocks In My Dryer. Since we all learn from mistakes and trials of others I thought I would put in my two cents worth of experience in to consider.
I had almost 30 years of marriage the first time and over 3 now, I have made many mistakes and learned from them. I hope my mistakes can help you.
Yelling does not work. Yelling at your husband works even less than yelling at the kids. It produces fights, anxiety, stress and accomplishes little good.
It does not work to react. Reacting can bring strife, wrong decisions and harm. Act instead. Think and act when you have a chance.
Telling kids to do a job, and not checking on them does not work — usually.
Never say “Clean your room” and emphasize that the floor is a mess. You can be sure the floor will be clean when you check, but a failure to look under the bed and in the closet is a big mistake.
It does not work to tell a child to put away their folded clothes. Somehow they think throwing them back in the hamper is away. Clarify where and how they should go.
It does not work to nag. Even if it would have been done, it does not get done or gets done with resentment. Nagging only stresses me out.
Belittling your husband or child does not work, especially in public. This is something I learned by watching others and know it would not work for me. I see the hurt on the husband or kids face and know it is not helping the relationship.
Starting dinner and walking away for a minute leaves you with something burnt.
I could go on, but there are so many more to read at Rocks in My Dryer.