Again, I go to Mr. Webster:
synonyms honor, homage, reverence, deference mean respect and esteem shown to another. honor may apply to the recognition of one’s right to great respect or to any expression of such recognition . homage adds the implication of accompanying praise. reverence implies profound respect mingled with love, devotion, or awe. deference implies a yielding or submitting to another’s judgment or preference out of respect or reverence .
Reverence? Honor? Me? To him? yup! Some may be smugly thinking “man I am glad I did not have that in my vows.” Problem is, it is what God expects of us also.
Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. Ephesians 5:33
You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. 1Peter 3:7
Honor all people, ( yup, your husband is a person!)love the brotherhood, fear God, honor the king. 1 Peter 2:17
You know what I found? I would go to church women’s meetings and most would start with gossip, from there it would go to the bad things that their husband does. This would then be gossiped by the rest of the people there. Everyone would “help” by telling them what they should and should not do because their husband does such and such or else it was like a “who can top this” time where people the women would really get going about how bad their husband is. My husband was pastor of five churches over his 30 years in the ministry. I would go to the women’s meetings and end up trying to change it and finally giving up and not going any more. It was supposed to be a church women’s group, or women’s missionary group and was just a gossip and husband bashing with some Bible and how to help the missionaries in between.
Then there are the women who down their husbands, in public and to their face. “I told you not to do that” or “why do you always…” etc.
Honor? Respect? Reverence? I think not!
Think about things you say to and about your husband. In honoring and respecting him you are also honoring and reverencing the Lord. It will have a major impact on your husband and for the Lord. It is not the way the world thinks, but it is the way God wants us to live. Like love, it is not a feeling, it is a decision to do, an action. Not because we may want to, but because it is right.